Category Archives: LIFE LESSONS

All those things we heard Mom say but were really to busy to pay attention to.

Platitudes and Sentiments

Platitudes and Sentiments …our lives are full of them. All one has to do is walk into any Hallmark Store and there before you is an endless variety to choose from. We no longer have to make a choice of what to say for any occasion because someone in a harshly lit cubical somewhere has done it for us. All we need to do is pick it up and stick our name on it and poof…sentiment delivered.

The problem I have is that I could visit a thousand stores and still not be able to find the appropriate one for my own life.

“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”… might be a good choice but you can’t kill something that’s already dead, so does that make me stronger? No…it just makes me one more soul left behind.

“Keep your chin up”…possibly another good choice but doesn’t keeping your chin pointed skyward just increase your chances of drowning in the storm?

“When one door closes another one opens”…this one always puzzled me…maybe because it seems as if all the opening doors just lead me to one greater disappointment.

“It’s always darkest before the dawn”…very true but when does the sun actually rise…I have been waiting for it for years now and I think I have just grown accustom to the darkness.

“Never judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes”…one of my favorites actually but one that most of us never live by. Perhaps it’s because we know that to walk in someone else’s shoes for even a moment will require us to put aside who we are and none of us can truly be that unselfish, even for a moment.

My life has been what I made it and I understand that and accept it, but that does not mean that it’s what I planned. I have lived for others, in one way or another most of my life and in doing so I lost so much of me along the way. Now at 52, my choices as well as my own future is limited. I don’t have the time, wisdom or strength to start over and yet I must find a way to do just that.

The last 6 years I feel as if I died with my chin in the air as the doors closed in the darkness. Hows that for a platitude?  What possible sentiment is there for someone who lost parents, a brother, children, friends, their security, stability, livelihood and finally their home? Is there a platitude to cover that?

Is there anyone willing to “walk a mile in these shoes”?… I doubt it and honestly I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. I could not inflict this much pain on any other soul.

I guess in the end the only thing that truly fits is….(insert platitude or sentiment here)


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OK ~ so I have been pondering this question for the last 2 days and I think I have finally sorted it out in my own little head so let me share…

The question of the day is “Merry Christmas” or “Happy Holidays”? As I have already said on several occasions I am an atheist so you would assume I would be the “Happy Holiday’s” sort, but I just can’t seem to find the logic in that, and it all comes down to one simple question…

What do you call December 25th?

Everyone I have asked no matter what their “religion” all have responded with the same answer ~ Christmas. Not one of them replied “Holiday” and this makes logical sense. I mean when have you ever heard anyone reply with anything else?  Imagine your kids  saying “Wake up…it’s holiday morning” or telling them that “Santa comes on holiday eve” or better still “I can’t wait for holiday”! All sound a bit crazy don’t you agree?

So lets look at the phrase “Happy Holiday’s”. What does it even mean? When does it start and what celebrations does it cover? Logic dictates that it should encompass Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years since all fall in the last 3 months of the year and by “retail” standards anyways, are thought of as the “holidays”. So then my questions become, why do we then still say Happy Halloween, Happy Thanksgiving and Happy New Year and no one is offended? Who fed us the line of bullshit that Merry Christmas is offensive and religiously motivated?. Why was only one of these “happy holidays” singled out?

As odd as it may sound my theory has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with corporate america. I think this lunacy was dreamed up in some back boardroom as a way to increase revenue by introducing a brand new product line for an already established event. To make it fly with Joe Public they, corporate america, slapped it with a religious overtone, thanks to its very spelling and it’s well-known history and BAM…Joe Public, true to form jumped on the bandwagon eager to take part in a fabricated protest just to be politically correct. The result…Joe Public is now willing to spend millions to erase “Merry Christmas” and replace it with “Happy Holidays” and corporate america is laughing all the way to the bank.

The very wording should have sent up a red flag…Happy Holiday’S…with out that little “s” the marketing doesn’t work. No one would have bought simply replacing Merry Christmas with Happy Holiday because it doesn’t make literary sense. Without that “s” how would they also then include Kwanza and Hanukkah?

That brings me full circle back to my original question…What do you call December 25? Christmas or Holiday?

Bottom line…if someone is offended by you wishing them a Merry Christmas ask them why? I am willing to bet that the first reply is going to be something about religion, to which I would reply…I said nothing about God, I simply wished you a Merry Christmas during this Holiday Season…you know the one that starts with Halloween and ends with New Years but if that is offensive then I surly do hope that Santa visits you on Holiday Eve and leaves gifts under your Holiday Tree and that come Holiday Morning you find all your Holiday wishes came true, so have a very merry happy holiday….me…I will be having a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS!